Timeless Advice for a Peaceful Life

So I wrote this piece way back to start 2010 and now over 6 years later, I find it as useful now as it was then. So I’m sharing it here for you fine folks, I hope you enjoy!
Drop me a comment at the end!
2010!

So ok 2010 is here, SO WHAT? What does it mean? Well as with the rising of the sun on each new day, it means the chance for a fresh start. This year is for the fulfillment of BIG DREAMS, not everyone will live or have lived to see this new year……

so shouldn’t we be glad that we have this opportunity to live the life we want to live? These are our best years or so everyone keeps telling us but it won’t be unless we make it…..

2009 was not really the best year or my life but it was the year of the most personal GROWTH. If it’s one thing I learned from 2009, it’s that all those stupid sounding clichés are founded on probably the greatest life lesson there is……

CARPE DIEM…….. LIVE EACH DAY LIKE IT’S YOUR  LAST…………. TODAY IS A GIFT……..corny, isn’t it?

But let’s be honest, the happiest times you’ve had in your life, were u ever thinking about the past or the future? I’m sure u weren’t cause I know when I look back on my happiest memories I sure as hell was not thinking about anything but that moment.

If you haven’t seen THE PURSUIT OF HAPPYNESS then u need to buy the DVD or something because its amazing how that story inspires me….

the guy was destitute, no money, a kid to look after, no home to sleep in, but he still went to the internship that he begged for that paid NO money and worked his ASS off putting up with an intolerable boss……..

Y?……because he had a dream and he knew he had to work to get it and there is no better day than TODAY………that’s right this very moment could be the start of the rest of your life………….

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING….sounds familiar?…..it’s been said before…… many times………let me give u an example………

I HATE washing wares………like HATE it ……….but then one day I just went over and washed them….nobody was pressing me to wash them and it didn’t thrill me to wash them but they had to be washed……..

I realized a little later that even when someone has the power to make u do something even if u don’t really want to do it, if u do it willingly or at least accept that you have to do it and one day you’ll not have to follow commands it will be smooth and easy…….

now don’t get me wrong ……I don’t mean be a pushover, au contraire, stand up for yourself and your dreams but when u know something has to happen, no matter how unpleasant, if it has to happen, if you have to do it before you can do what you want to do, as long as it’s legal, JUST DO IT!……..I’m sure NIKE knew how profound their slogan was….lol……..but even if u don’t have to do it, if it won’t hurt anyone then why not just do it WILLINGLY.

WILLINGLY……………for a long time (when I was younger of course) I saw that word in the Bible, I’m not sure which passage but I saw it, and for a long time I could not grasp the concept, but this past year I finally understand completely what it means……….

It goes back to attitude and is the best thing I could have realized in my life….so all u folks out there with bad attitudes……..your life will never look up until you perk up……hahahaha doesn’t that sound grand!

So now that I’ve covered that there is one more thing I’d like to leave you all with…. A CLEAN MIND AND A PURE HEART……….whoa! What girl ………….when u get so spiritual…..hahaha I always was but we’ll discuss that later……….

You know when people say if u take your prayers to god with a clean mind and a pure heart your prayers would be answered….did u know that its true?……..

Well you don’t always get what u want but you will realize that what you think you want is not really what you need or what’s best for you……..that’s when you’ll find a spiritual peacefulness or contentment with life……….

When u can look into your own body, mind and soul and listen carefully and harmonize with them……………that’s when you would know what you need and that’s when you’ll realize that you’ll always have exactly what you want……….because you’ll have peace of mind…….. and actually that’s the only thing we all really want……………PEACE OF MIND!

Well that leaves only now my wishes for everyone for this new year and beyond…….A GREAT ATTITUDE…………..GREAT HEALTH………..A CLEAN MIND……A PURE HEART………..CONTINUED SELF IMPROVEMENT……….SUCCESS IN LIFE AND LOVE……….FINANCIAL STABILITY…………..HAPPYNESS

………… AND …… PEACE OF MIND!!!

Happy 2010!!!

Happy Life!

Shoulders Back!

Chin up!

Chest Out!

BE AWESOME!!!

Love,

~~~Ms Abby Kay~~~

This Weekend at the Theatre – Twist of Fate/Faith RELOADED

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Kingdom Arts and Performances will be showing their production at Queens Hall this weekend.

This weekend Kingdom Arts and Performances will be showing it’s original piece entitled Twist of Fate/Faith RELOADED .

Showing from April 22nd to 24th at Queens Hall, this is a tale of four school friends facing everyday decisions and challenges. The twist comes when God intervenes and changes  their lives and fate to faith.

Tickets can be bought at:

Kristina’s POS and St. James
Kris n Tony’s Long Circular Mall
Ainsley Trincity Mall
The Port Restaurant One Woodbrook Place

Tickets cost $200

Showtime April 22nd to 24th:
8pm on Friday and Saturday
6:30pm on Sunday

How passionate are you ?

I started reading a book called fight for your dream. In the book you are encouraged to discover yourself and your passion. Now while this activity isn’t new to me, I decided to try and actually answer each question.

With each question and the introspection required to answer it, I find myself consumed with emotion. Emotions because I want it so bad because I think about not having gotten there yet and not seeing a clear path to get there it yet I’m absolutely convinced that I must get it, that my spirit will never find true peace without it.

The first time I felt such passion for a dream, it scared me. It scared me because I know that there is no way that I could just get it…. Life doesn’t work like that, life tests you…. And trying to achieve a dream is one of its biggest tests. Things happen that threaten to destroy your spirit, it threatens to destroy your beliefs and your resolve. It is how we face these threats that ultimately decides if we are worthy of not just achieving our dreams but holding on to it.

Now there are many things that can keep us back from what we desire, maybe it wasn’t meant for us, maybe we didn’t want it as badly as we thought, maybe we meet an untimely death, maybe our desires change with time and experiences. But how will we feel if what we want is denied to us because of us?

This is why I ask HOW PASSIONATE ARE YOU? Are you willing to face the challenges, fight the odds, dedicate the time effort and energy it requires? Are you willing to face your family and friends trying to encourage you to do something more ‘practical’?

Most importantly, are you willing to fight yourself for your dreams? Face your inner demons? Stifle your doubts? Wrestle with your fears? Go to war with your weaknesses?

Are you willing to take the time to nourish your strengths or grow your mind? Are you willing to set aside your ego and arrogance to empty yourself of what you think you know to become what you need to become?

This book I mentioned earlier highlighted my greatest fear. It said you need to find out what your next dream will be otherwise you are sentencing yourself to a life of mediocrity.

Living a mediocre life terrifies me because MEDIOCRITY IS THE DEATH OF GREATNESS!

So how passionate are you? Are you going to live each day filled with passion and pursuing your dreams or are you going to be just another walking dead?

You know my words…
Chin up
Chest out
BE AWESOME!

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Love
~~~Ms Abby Kay ~~~

Trying to make it

When you grow up financially challenged, seen so your parents struggle to keep it all together. Struggle to keep you fed, struggle to pay the bills, struggle to pay the rent.

When you know their dream is to own their own home and felt it so strongly it became your dream too. 
When you grow up and you start facing the same struggles but you’re convinced that you can do better.

So you study hard, mainly because your parents worked their asses off so that you could. You get a good job, you try to save.

But at every turn, every single time you start to feel like you’re up….. Something just has to come around and knock you back down.

Every time!  And it happens to almost everyone you know well. Yet there are so many others who just seem to be getting through just a little bit better than you. Hell who am I kidding, they are getting through a hell of a lot better than you.

You feel a heaviness, a burden on your shoulders….. All the damn time. Or so it seems.

You’re ready to give up. Seems like the world has turn it’s back on us.

Well SCREW YOU, WORLD!!  Challenges gonna have to turn around and look you in your face soon enough. Because you will NEVER give up! 

That feeling, that defeated feeling….. It’s just for now because the shit is getting hard again and the challenges are piling up.

But you had so many moments when you felt blessed beyond comprehension….. Blessed because you had family who would never see you sick or hungry or even lonely. Blessed because your friends never let you stay down for long and because they sometimes believe in you more than you believe in yourself.

Blessed because you can help out your family even when you are struggling yourself. And even though you wish you could do more, be more, have more….. As long as you remember that you are blessed to be surrounded by love and have a plate of food and some kind of shelter…… Everything else gonna fall into place.

You just gotta keep working towards it without forgetting all your blessings.

Count your blessings
Be someone’s blessing
Receive more blessings

Make that a cycle and you gonna make it…… This too shall pass!

Love,
Ms Abby Kay

Shoulders back,
Chin up,
Chest out,
BE AWESOME!

Allow me to Re-introduce Myself

So you think you know me? Think I’m the same girl you knew last year?

Please….. I’m not even the same girl I was yesterday.

Every day I evolve. Every single day.

And no, I am not a schizophrenic. I’ve known someone with schizophrenia, it’s no joke.

I evolve every day because I learn every day. I learn more about myself, about life, about my profession. More about society and how I prefer to react to situations. I learn more about my personal style or how to better manage my hair.

It’s because I learn every day and because I want to learn every day, that I’m here, blogging ; connecting to you, whomever you may be.

I want to learn from you and share with you. But most importantly, I want to learn from myself; see the evolution of my mind and outlooks and perspectives.

I said in my first introduction that I may need you, but in the few months that I’ve been blogging, I realised….. I actually do NEED you!!

I want to improve my writing and become this truly awesome person that I created Ms Abby Kay to be.

So you know what?
No more being overly proper, I’m just going to say what I feel and think, no self imposed censor; and I’m going to ask for your help in understanding different perspectives. In determining different ways to approach different situations.

I will share with you my joys and my pains, and let you know that whatever it is that you may be going through, you are not alone, you got me. You may not like what I have to say but you got me. And I hope I can count on you too.

So, join me on my journey. Let’s be Awesome together….. Uncensored and uncut!

Much Love!
Ms Abby Kay

Again

Left again
Stranded again
Abandoned again
Unloved again
Used again
Feeling stupid again
Tired of wasting time and money again
Only to be left alone again
Don’t want to be angry again
Or bitter again
Don’t want a void where emotions were again
Don’t want to feel empty again

So now, strong in my weakness, I stand again

Shoulders back,
Chin up,
Chest out,
AWESOME AGAIN

Pain – A Necessary Evil

So Sunday, I went to a sports day.  Things were going great. Then one of my team mates got injured.

He was crying from the pain and had to be taken to the hospital. It was hard to watch and hear. Him begging me to help him get something to ease the pain and discomfort.

But I couldn’t, the doctor needed him to feel the pain so he could help them identify the true source of the problem.

That’s when it hit me, every pain we go through we must go through in order for us to identify the source of what is unhealthy for us.

Not God, not our family and not our friends,  if they truly cared about us, would give us anything to get rid of the pain without first understanding the cause of it. And if someone claims to care about yet offers a painkiller without trying to find out what causes the pain, watch them slight and get far away.

Sometimes pain is so bad that you just want it to end but before trying to get rid of the pain use it to find out the cause. If you treat the symptoms without treating the cause, the symptoms will either keep coming back or something worse will follow.

So in the midst of your pain, remember to treat the cause not just the symptoms.

Chin up, Chest out, Shoulders back!
Be AWESOME!
Ms Abby Kay