Timeless Advice for a Peaceful Life

So I wrote this piece way back to start 2010 and now over 6 years later, I find it as useful now as it was then. So I’m sharing it here for you fine folks, I hope you enjoy!
Drop me a comment at the end!

So ok 2010 is here, SO WHAT? What does it mean? Well as with the rising of the sun on each new day, it means the chance for a fresh start. This year is for the fulfillment of BIG DREAMS, not everyone will live or have lived to see this new year……

so shouldn’t we be glad that we have this opportunity to live the life we want to live? These are our best years or so everyone keeps telling us but it won’t be unless we make it…..

2009 was not really the best year or my life but it was the year of the most personal GROWTH. If it’s one thing I learned from 2009, it’s that all those stupid sounding clichés are founded on probably the greatest life lesson there is……


But let’s be honest, the happiest times you’ve had in your life, were u ever thinking about the past or the future? I’m sure u weren’t cause I know when I look back on my happiest memories I sure as hell was not thinking about anything but that moment.

If you haven’t seen THE PURSUIT OF HAPPYNESS then u need to buy the DVD or something because its amazing how that story inspires me….

the guy was destitute, no money, a kid to look after, no home to sleep in, but he still went to the internship that he begged for that paid NO money and worked his ASS off putting up with an intolerable boss……..

Y?……because he had a dream and he knew he had to work to get it and there is no better day than TODAY………that’s right this very moment could be the start of the rest of your life………….

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING….sounds familiar?…..it’s been said before…… many times………let me give u an example………

I HATE washing wares………like HATE it ……….but then one day I just went over and washed them….nobody was pressing me to wash them and it didn’t thrill me to wash them but they had to be washed……..

I realized a little later that even when someone has the power to make u do something even if u don’t really want to do it, if u do it willingly or at least accept that you have to do it and one day you’ll not have to follow commands it will be smooth and easy…….

now don’t get me wrong ……I don’t mean be a pushover, au contraire, stand up for yourself and your dreams but when u know something has to happen, no matter how unpleasant, if it has to happen, if you have to do it before you can do what you want to do, as long as it’s legal, JUST DO IT!……..I’m sure NIKE knew how profound their slogan was….lol……..but even if u don’t have to do it, if it won’t hurt anyone then why not just do it WILLINGLY.

WILLINGLY……………for a long time (when I was younger of course) I saw that word in the Bible, I’m not sure which passage but I saw it, and for a long time I could not grasp the concept, but this past year I finally understand completely what it means……….

It goes back to attitude and is the best thing I could have realized in my life….so all u folks out there with bad attitudes……..your life will never look up until you perk up……hahahaha doesn’t that sound grand!

So now that I’ve covered that there is one more thing I’d like to leave you all with…. A CLEAN MIND AND A PURE HEART……….whoa! What girl ………….when u get so spiritual…..hahaha I always was but we’ll discuss that later……….

You know when people say if u take your prayers to god with a clean mind and a pure heart your prayers would be answered….did u know that its true?……..

Well you don’t always get what u want but you will realize that what you think you want is not really what you need or what’s best for you……..that’s when you’ll find a spiritual peacefulness or contentment with life……….

When u can look into your own body, mind and soul and listen carefully and harmonize with them……………that’s when you would know what you need and that’s when you’ll realize that you’ll always have exactly what you want……….because you’ll have peace of mind…….. and actually that’s the only thing we all really want……………PEACE OF MIND!

Well that leaves only now my wishes for everyone for this new year and beyond…….A GREAT ATTITUDE…………..GREAT HEALTH………..A CLEAN MIND……A PURE HEART………..CONTINUED SELF IMPROVEMENT……….SUCCESS IN LIFE AND LOVE……….FINANCIAL STABILITY…………..HAPPYNESS

………… AND …… PEACE OF MIND!!!

Happy 2010!!!

Happy Life!

Shoulders Back!

Chin up!

Chest Out!



~~~Ms Abby Kay~~~

The Struggle is real, but Success is near!

Bills getting to be too much? Food prices stretching your budget? Feeling overwhelmed at work?

Do you sometimes start to doubt if you are really as competent as you always believed you were? Your love life in a rut? Don’t have the wardrobe you just know you should have?

Does  your back and shoulders ache and you’re tired of getting soaked in rain or waiting or having to wake up early to get transport?

Can’t afford the life of luxury you feel in your soul belongs to you? Is your life just not as awesome as you are?

You may be suffering from The Struggle. Yes, you heard me, The Struggle is real but fear not, for you are not alone. Everyday someone somewhere faces symptoms of The Struggle.

Now, you my be wondering: Does it ever get better? Is there a cure? How do I avoid the struggle? To answer these questions, we must first ask ourselves, What exactly is The Struggle?

The Struggle

Now the struggle is defined as everyday difficulties. This is not the major problems like starvation or being destitute or dying from pancreatic cancer. The struggle affects everyone, from the poor to the 1%. It is hardships that sometimes go beyond the physical or tangible.

http://www.urbandictionary.com has it defined as:

A (generally) ironic saying often used in place of saying, ‘first world problems’. Has slightly more urban undertones than ‘first world problems’. Denotes a situation where the user wishes to express that they are encountering some sort of undesirable difficulty, but dealing with it. With irony, it has a comical effect of dramatizing a non-critical, yet undesirable situation.

A little known fact is that every single one of us during our lifespan MUST experience a symptom of The Struggle. Can you avoid it? No! Can you cure it? No! But…you can treat it.

How, how, how?

With doses of success, of course. But how do we define success?

Success = The Pursuit of Happiness Realized

That is my first definition in any case. So, by this definition, success and happiness are one and the same. Getting a symptom of the struggle and you want immediate relif? Do something or be with someone that makes you happy.

But!!!! Success is also the overcoming of a challenge. So, paying your bills in full and on time….success (even if you might be broke for the rest of the month). Getting that challenging report out on time…….success (yes I know you have 20 other tasks still pending). Just broke up with someone who didn’t appreciate all you did for them……success (your love life would only improve even if now you’re lonely).

You may have an over-arching definition of your greatest challenge or what would constitute your pursuit of happiness but every large hurdle can be broken down into small, bite-sized pieces.

So now when you feel like success is eluding you or is taking its time or that things are just not going your way. When you feeling the struggle, remember:

One, one cocoa does full basket.

The race is not for the swift but for those who can endure to the end.

It’s always darkest before the dawn.

So yes the struggle is real, but fear not! Success is near!